Expectations

So I am filled with anticipation about tomorrow night.  I know I shouldn’t be, because like as not, my expectations will be too high, and the result will not meet them, and then, no matter how wonderful the night is, there will always be that little shadow hanging over it.…

Greedy Bitch

So I bought my guys some toys. The SO and I are heading up to Kinky Kollege in October, and he had indicated an interest in canes, so I bought him a “starter” set from Cane-IAC, so that he’ll have several different styles to try out on some unsuspecting female…

Primary Function

My relationship with my SO, in regards to BDSM, is not always clearly defined.  Oh the roles themselves when we are in that space–he is Top, I am bottom–are always very clear, but within our “real life” relationship we are equals, and it is only when we enter that space…

New Post on APL: Schmoop!

New post on A Poly Life: It’s Thursday, I Think I’m Sick. Feeling contented and relaxed today-go on over and see why!

Reclamation

I can’t truly call it “reclaiming,” because honestly? his hold on me never left. It is there, no matter where I go, what I do, who I am with. And yet he has reclaimed me, made me his again, made me remember that, no matter where I go, I belong…

WotW – Twat

Now on Eden Cafe: WotW: Twat.  Written by Yours Truly.  It doesn’t always mean what you think it means!

Body Image and Flaws on APL

As some of you may have noticed, I didn’t post an HNT this week. I really did get too busy, but if I am to be honest, there was also another reason. I wanted to participate in fellow blogger Another Suburban Mom’s “Flaws” HNT theme, but I just wasn’t brave…

Anxiety

I’ll be honest. I’m sick with anxiety. Literally, physically, ill. My stomach hurts and rumbles with it. My heart flutters when I think about it, when I think about my upcoming trip. I alternate between wanting to see W with an intensity that borders on obsessive to not wanting to…

On APL – Love and BDSM

I’ve written a new post over on A Poly Life: Love and BDSM, in which I talk about the question of whether it is possible to have a fulfilling BDSM-based relationship in which you don’t love each other.

Anniversary Post

Today is, almost to the day, the one-year anniversary of the first time W and I met. And what a year it’s been! I started this blog soon after that auspicious beginning, and have chronicled our relationship and many of the things we have done in that time, right here.…