Reflections – Days 3-5 on the Outer Banks

Continuing from this post… I have finally arrived at my chosen destination, a place I love: the windswept Outer Banks of North Carolina. There I face some additional challenges (aka “opportunities for learning”): rain, wind, cold, flooded campsite, solar and electrical issues. And yet – and yet – I find…

Masochist Mondays

My Canadian playpartner, referred to here most often as either “The Canadian” or “M” (super imaginative, I know) asked me recently about when the next daily, weekly or monthly meme was that I was going to write for. I think he knows (after knowing me for several years) that I…

The AtoZ Challenge, Letters I & J

The above is an excerpt from a favorite Mary Oliver poem, which happens to be the impetus for the this week’s Revelations prompt, Joy. Where we find it, do we embrace it, how do we manifest in our own lives and the lives of others? But first, some housekeeping, i.e.,…
selective focus photo of oxeye daisies

AND…I have a theme!

This year’s theme, via the A to Z Challenge, is My Favorite Things (a not-definitive list.) But DAMN I’ve got a lot of catching up to do! Okay, here goes, A to E… A is for … B is for … C is for … D is for … E…

Pee Stories

I have rules about peeing – I have to ask before doing so. Okay, it’s not actually “just” peeing, although I didn’t realize that until recently. We call it “pee permission,” but that is (apparently) for delicacy’s sake. It’s actually “bathroom permission.” But it’s hard enough to for me to…

Relationship Dynamics & Labels

I recently read a post on Fetlife (Every Relationship is Different, by Lady_Elsa, if you have access to FL) that really resonated with me. I posted it in the Twisted Tryst group on Fet because we are headed there next week, and it seemed to echo so much of the…

In Praise of “Normal Life”

Sometimes in my online readings, by coincidence or fate, I’ll read two very different pieces of writing that will spark thoughts on the same topic, though perhaps (as in this instance) from different perspectives.  A post by Kaya on the nature of her relationship and another on Fearless Press, Living…

His Girl

“I want you to stay here after it’s over,” he said. “I’ll want to get my girl back.” There are all sorts of aftercare.  I usually tend to think in terms of my needs for it, as do most people; a bottom’s needs for some kind of care after an…

30 Days of Kink: Day 4 – Early Signs

Day 4: Any early experiences that, in retrospect, hint at your kinks? I was such a shy, withdrawn teenager.  All I thought about was my horse & reading. And boys, but less so.  Kink would have been right outta there. There were two things that might have indicated where my…

Don’t Change Me!

I was reading a post in one of my favorite discussion groups on Fet, “Not Quite Ready for Polite Company M/sers”– Oh, wait. I’m not in an M/s relationship, so maybe I shouldn’t be part of the group, or comment in it. Actually, for the most part, I don’t comment…