30 Days of Kink – Day 24: Qualities

Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner? When I seek out a play partner now, it usually has to do with some specific type of play that I am interested in, so I am not actually looking for specific qualities in that person the way I…

30 days of Kink – Day 23: Changes in Perspectives or Interests

Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed? How so? As most of us do, I have some very specific interests and triggers in the world of kink. And as has happened to most of us, those interests and triggers have changed over time. …

30 Days of Kink – Day 22: Healthy Relationships

Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship? I struggled with this one a bit, because I really am of two minds here. On the one hand, I want to say, “BDSM relationships are special, and…

30 Days of Kink – Day 21: Literary Influences

Day 21: Favorite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction.) I actually misread this when I started writing it (my bad for not putting the question at the top of the post immediately.)  So I answered this as if the question was what BDSM-related book has most influenced me. It took…

30 Days of Kink – Day 20: Curiosity

Day 20: Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand. I can’t write this from the “What I don’t understand,” perspective. I just don’t think that way. If it’s not something I enjoy/want to do or don’t get, but others do… ~shrug~  Who cares if I don’t get…

30 Days of Kink – Day 19: Unexpected Improvements

Day 19: Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life? If so, what are they? I can’t say that it was particularly unexpected…I mean the desire for hot sex was why I got interested in BDSM in the first place, but I think I was surprised at how much I…

30 Days of Kink – Day 18: Pet Peeves

Day 18: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves? If so, what are they? I’m not a very peevish person. I don’t let the little things bug me, for the most part, and live by the philosophy that if I can’t change it, let it be, which pet peeves seem to be in…

30 Days of Kink – Day 17: Misconceptions

Day 17: What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up? You know, I don’t have a need to “clear up” other people’s misconceptions about kink. To put it baldly, I couldn’t care less what they think or feel about it. Unless they interfere with my right…

30 Days of Kink – Day 16: When Kink Makes It Difficult

Day 16: What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally? It’s funny that this question has come up just now. I don’t really find much difficult about it. I love being kinky, kinky sex is good, kink makes me hot…but…

30 Days of Kink – Day 15: Something(s) I’d Like to Try

Damn, it’s been awhile since I updated this meme. I think I actually forgot that I hadn’t finished it. LOL  But now, while I’m not actually doing anything kinky, seems to be a good time to think about it. At least I have my imagination, right? (Or maybe it’s the…